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Without being a total ascetic, I've tried to pull away from materialism over the past couple years or so. It came from a desire to simplify day-to-day life; after work and commuting, there is only so much personal time left to enjoy without spending it accumulating things... It also came from a realization that I already had everything I needed, and was capable of getting most things that I think I "need". And once all those basic needs are met, everything else is gravy, but not necessarily going to make me that much happier in the long run.
I've been wanting to get off the hedonic treadmill (side note, I love that Investopedia even lists a definition for it). It's nice to own things but not have them own you. It's also nice to share meaningful experiences rather than things. I learned a long time ago that my 'love language' is spending quality time with someone, and that can be done without costing anything. You could pay for certain experiences (concerts, vacations, restaurants... all things I enjoy myself), but chances are you'll remember the joy they brought you, not the cost. Unless you're one of those who loves things more based on how much you spent... in that case, not sure how to help you there.
So you've probably figured out this isn't your average gift guide. Hopefully you're already thinking of experiences you can give your loved ones. You know, to show them how grateful you are for having them in your life. You'd be doing yourself a favor, because this will make you happier in the long run. Family members started asking weeks ago for Christmas gift suggestions ("taking requests" as we say). But then my cousins and I decided we would forego the gifts and go out for lunch over the holidays. I'm not hopping on a plane just to collect gifts, after all. I want to collect laughs and hugs and kisses. Those will keep me happy far longer than other things.
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unclutterer: Why buying more won't make you happy
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nymag: "4 People, 650 Square Feet: A Love Story".
